As the Program Director for Sesso Ed, the educational branch of Portland’s Club Sesso, I am always working on new content to support people in living the intimate relationships that inspire them. To date I’ve presented at clubs, stores and events in Baltimore, Denver, San Francisco and Portland, OR on topics ranging from communication skills to fellatio, and more.
Workshops with a next to them may be viewed through either or both The Kink Academy and Passionate U – educational video purveyors for the sexually curious, both of which I enthusiastically endorse!
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The Law of Multiples: Creating Healthy Open Relationships
One + one = done. This is the openly accepted American ideal for a committed partnership. Nonetheless, many people find deep satisfaction in swinging and polyamory – styles of loving that include three or more partners. In this session we’ll discuss the differences between emotional and physical non-monogamy, non-monogamy vs. cheating, and look at the benefits gained and the pitfalls risked when you consider adding multiple partners to a loving relationship.
Full-Bodied Fellatio (Great for private parties!)
What do you do when your partner lacks BJ skills? Where do you go for training when you wish to improve your own? Here! Makael is a relationship coach & dance instructor with a particular skill for breaking physical action into components and teaching them with enthusiasm... and BJ's are one of her favorite things. This class will educate both the givers and receivers. Come learn about creating anticipation, communication, preparing for success, hand skills, tongue tricks, prostate massage, deep throating, sloppy BJ's, choking and forced gagging for both bio and strap-on penises. Live demo (on dildo) included. Many of these techniques are included in My Erotic Adventure, her choose-your-own styled erotic novel, now available at She Bop. Get empowered to give and receive extraordinary head!
Swinging 101
Everything you’ve wondered but didn’t know whom to ask! During this workshop Makael will draw from her personal experience of over 5 years in the swinging communities of Washington, DC; Baltimore, MD; Denver, CO; NoCal and SoCal to cover the following:
•What is swinging and why do people do it?
•How does it work?
•Terms and definitions.
•Several on-line meeting sites and how best to use them.
•Club dress codes and etiquette.
•How to meet people at a club, or How not to be creepy.
•Negotiating successful play dates.
Bring your curiosity, your questions, and your experience to share with others.
“My husband is thankful that I took your Fellatio class. He particularly loves the gagging, which was a pleasant surprise for us both. The only drawback is that he thinks I should practice every day!”
– Susan
“Your workshop was amazing and fun! I actually felt really positive about myself and sexuality after my partner and I attended your workshop. The [discussion about] jealousy (fear of loss) really made me aware of my childhood and how it affected my relationship with my partner for the last 15 years.”
– Emily
“Makael's clear and inviting discussion neutralized the emotional charge around non-monogamy, but it was the stories of her own experiences shared with humor and irony that opened the topic in a vulnerable and human way. She demonstrates the deep honesty and open communication required to navigate successfully through multiple partner relationships, and her easy acceptance of all our human differences invites each of us to explore fully.”
– Barbara Snow, Shantrika and facilitator for The Wild Ride: Becoming Your Full Self
“Makael's class opened my mind to new possibilities, showed me some new techniques, and communicated very clearly that any sexual choice is okay, as long as it's YOURS. Makael's expertise and authenticity are a winning recipe to create a safe space and a fun, enlightening class.”
– Robin Hoffman, The World's #1 Author Alchemist
More topics are under development! Contact me for more information.
Empowering Communication, Relationships, Sexuality
& Life Mission
“Being a seasoned Sex Coach and a long-time pleasure promoter, I thought I knew it all. Then came Makael with her presentation on Fellatio. I took notes – lots of them. Makael’s knowledge is right up there with her enthusiasm. I’d go see anything she has to offer.”
– Pam Babbitt, Editor, SexCoaching.com
Classes, Workshops & Videos
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The Kinky Toy Bag Tour
Curious about the implements of kink? Ever wondered about the difference between a whip and a flogger? Makael will take you on a lightly-experiential, hands-on tour of her kinky toy bag and discuss some of the distinctions of the BDSM lifestyle. Thud vs. sting, Top/bottom, Dominant/submissive, Sadist/masochist, sensual vs. painful sensation – these are some of the topics we’ll discuss as we examine nipple clamps, sharp, pointy things, rope and other restraints, and much more. She’ll also introduce you to one of the most popular “gateway” toys: Vampire Gloves. Bring your curiosity and find out what you just might enjoy!
Communication Skills for Extraordinary Relationships
Attraction and love are wonderful things. Communication, however, is what makes relationships possible. What we hear and how we respond can make or break our success. In this interactive workshop we'll discuss several tools for listening, interpreting, and speaking that will improve your ability to communicate, reducing stress and frustration in all areas of your life.
ABOVE: Denver Sex Show clip from The Law of Multiples on how Consensual Non-Monogamy is different from Cheating.
For other (impeccable quality) videos from this and my other workshops, please visit Passionate U!
The D/s of Dancing
Take your D/s into the public domain… go dancing! Inherent in Waltz, Swing, Salsa and all other partner dances is the dynamic of leading and following – a mundane example of Dominance and submission. Partner dancing thus provides the perfect opportunity to dress up your D/s and take it out in public. M. Makael Newby, Certified Dance Instructor and Alt-Relationship Coach, will teach you Dom/mes how to lead, you subs how to follow, and have you dancing the basics of Waltz, Fox Trot and Rumba in only 90-minutes. Singles are welcome, as partners are not required. Permission to share your submissive partners on the dance floor is requested. (I promise they'll be returned to you at the end of class!)
“I enjoyed the Swinging 101 class. I have been a member of [a swinger’s club] for over a year and attended some events. Never the less, this was the single most informative event I have attended.”
– Ken
Here are some of my current offerings:
Sex Toy Jeopardy!
Test your mundane and kinky sex toy knowledge! In this Jeopardy-style game, teams of participants will compete for points in the categories of Things That Go Buzz, Insertables, Female Sexuality, Male Sexuality, Health & Safety, Boy Toys, Girl Toys, Sensual Play, Power Play (Electrical), Kink 101, Bondage, Mind Games, and D/s Play. The winning team members will receive 10% off any online order from She Bop, a female-friendly and pthalate-free sex toy store in Portland, OR. Part education, part show and tell, and completely engaging, you’ve never had so much fun learning how to Play!
Oral Sex: Fabulous Fellatio & Creative Cunnilingus
Beginning with an in-depth review of humans sexual anatomy, we’ll discuss several important elements of communication including expectations, and requesting and giving feedback. We’ll then proceed to hand and mouth skills, deep throating and sloppy blowjobs for male-bodied partners, before moving on to the wonders of orally pleasing the female body. Prepare to be pleased at your ability to pleasure!